Do you
constantly try to prove to others that you are “good enough?”
We must admit that most of our actions are motivated
to win the acceptance and admiration of our peers. There is something about
pleasing people that pleases us.
Most of the time, it is our personal
insecurities that cause this “I need to be good enough for you” mentality. One
psychologist said that to even entertain this “I need to be good enough” debate
in your head is already a choice to go to the path of unhappiness. For you will
never be good enough in your mind. You will always find something that you need
to be “good enough” to please others.
To live in the mercy of other’s approval and
acceptance is like building your life on shifting sands. People’s opinions are
fickle. They love you today and then hate you tomorrow. We can see this with
movie stars and music artist. Here today and gone tomorrow. Putting the
direction of your life at other’s hands is to miss out your own life.
We need to learn to accept ourselves. Even
those things we do not like in ourselves. Accepting does not mean liking what
you see, but accepting that they are real. If you have a bad temper, you do not
need to like your bad temper. But you must accept that you have one!
Only when we accept ourselves for who we
really are can we start to grow. We must accept our strengths and also our
weakness, the good and the bad in us. Only when we can look at ourselves
objectively can we start changing those aspects of our lives that need
improvements.
We must first win the approval of ourselves. I
approve of me! Yes I approve of me because God approves of me. If God did not
approve of me, I would not even be here.
If you want to win the approval of others, win
the approval of the God first. God approves of your creation, but do you think
He approves on how you are living your life right now?
But why do we want God’s approval on our
lives?
Because we want joy!
Happiness can only be found when we are in
line with God’s plan for our lives.
